Day 155 — Entry-Level Love, Work

Younger MenIs dating a younger guy like taking an entry level job at, say, McDonalds?

Ann’s been giving that notion a lot of thought lately as she ponders her full-time employment options and dating possibilities now that she’s broken up with a mature individual who was clearly a professional. [At least she thinks it was a breakup. In any event, it was over something that shouldn’t have been an issue.]

From a very broad viewpoint, entry level jobs—cleaner, cashier, and receptionist—don’t require a lot of experience but are a necessary first step toward getting a serious job. You don’t need a lot of experience to get one, and they’re generally boring. Your aim is to put in your time and move on.

In Ann’s opinion, so are starter boyfriends. They don’t have a lot of experience and lack intellectual stimulation. These relationships also don’t last very long.

Ann doesn’t waste a lot of time thinking that she’ll need to take a step back in her career and accept an entry level job, or a younger man.

But Ann’s love life is beginning to evolve and operate with a different mindset.

She had never given much thought to dating a man in his 30s because she thought, Where will this go? Probably nowhere except a few good sacks.

But often finding your groove in life comes from maturity and the perspective it breeds. In other words, why should age matter so much in a relationship, or in the workplace? We should not discount things we haven’t tried, and even if we don’t intent to try them, we should leave our mind open that age is, well, ageless.

In love, there are famous couples divided by great distances in their ages. They portray happiness. Poster-couple example: Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher. Demi is something like 45 years old, and Ashton, 30—a 15-year age gap.

They are not alone. Actresses Elizabeth Taylor, Susan Sarandon and Goldie Hawn all chose younger men as their love interests. My ex was two years younger than me; I don’t think that counts, however.

According to a study from the American Association of Retired Persons, it is estimated that over 30 percent of women between the ages 40 and 69 are dating men who are 10 years younger or more.

A new study by CareerBuilding tracks a similar trend in the workforce. According to the study, mature workers are expanding their job search to include entry-level positions—and employers are open to it.

If living is about life experiences and what you can glean from them, don’t be surprised if you see Ann investing her intellectual capital in both a younger man and new career.

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2 Responses to “Day 155 — Entry-Level Love, Work”

  1. allan says:

    Good morning,
    As you read my words, as I did a few of your’s…what is it we feel?

    Do others feel as I feel? Or as you, my reader, feels?

    Re-reading a few of your dating tales, is it the rich man that your heart aches for (assuming n ache of course)…a handsome man…or? Do you know or tell? As a man its great to know this….amazingly, just like a woman likes to know!

    Thx..I like you!

  2. gotb says:

    Dear Allan,

    Men, like women, come in packages–the sum of the parts make the package. In other words, they are not mutually exclusive. Ann

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