Day 167 — Over-Rated Words

If I read one more online dating profile about a man seeking a woman of adventure, I’m going to croak.


Words Are Over-RatedI told you so.

Adventure is as overused in dating profiles, as the word multitasking is in job descriptions.

Whether you’re in the market for a new job or love life, potential partners in both realms infuse their descriptions with too many adjectives and adverbs, and expectations.

Employers describe an ideal candidate as a person with excellent communication skills who can work cross functionally in a fast-paced and exciting work environment. Your reward: A competitive (sometimes generous) compensation, vacation and benefits package.

The same could be said of men when I read their profile, which should be called their hopes and dreams. Like employers, sometimes I think they’re looking for the impossible.

Another thing I’ve noticed is that employers increasingly want specialists of some sort or another. Perhaps that explains why there are so many specialized online dating sites.

To me, Match.com appeals to the masses of date seekers just like Monster.com is for mainstream job seekers.

So, if we’re becoming an increasingly specialized marketplace, perhaps we need to take that road less traveled.

For love seekers, head over to LoveIsGreen.org, a dating source for vegetarians, vegans, and raw-food people. DateAGolfer.com and Randomate.com, which specializes in speed dating online, are two others.

Career sites are similarly specialized. Check out Cool Works to find a seasonal job or career at ski resorts, ranches, theme parks, tour companies. CampusRN is solely geared to entry-level or new graduate nursing candidates. And, my favorite: Ned’s Job of the Week Job, which posts communication-related jobs.

As my son’s psychiatrist once told me, “There’s a peer for everybody.”

I’d like to believe that as I continue my job and love search.

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One Response to “Day 167 — Over-Rated Words”

  1. Dick says:

    I’m not sure about the dating sites, but my experience indicates that the job descriptions are written (or rewritten) by the weenies in the human resources department. Said weenies have no idea of what skills are required to actually do the job but are easily impressed by resumes containing the same words that they had in their posting. (“Look, a perfect match for this job!!!!!!!!”)

    Maybe it’s just because I have grown a bit older, but the thought of an adventuresome woman just kind of puts me off a bit because I’m just not sure what that means. Does it mean I’ll be having dinner with the first female Edmund Hillary? At least that’s the first thought that comes to mind. Of course after that come the memories of my hiking “adventure” which turned out to be a near-death experience, or at leas felt like one. That’s when I learned that I was a walker, not a hiker. Hikers are tuff. (And mean.)

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